You have the ability to get the positive behavior you’re looking for by changing your expectations. This may sound too good to be true but it is a powerful reality. You must be willing to ignore what the reality is and see your child in the way you want them to be.
If you want them to be a better student, you must see them as such. If you want them to be nicer, you must see them as a nice person. Does this take practice? It sure does.
But once you master this, you will be in the position to experience the aspects of your child that you wish to.
Similar to the Law of Attraction — positivity and feeling good play an equally valuable part in accessing your Internal Guidance System and getting what you want in your life and with your kids.
Kids have so much access to their good feelings. Therefore, they have so much access to knowing what is right for them. Yes, this is true for younger kids too. Kids tend to follow their fun and good feelings. When anyone, be it an adult or child has access to their well-being and then tap into their internal guidance to make choices, these choices will have value. Kids innately, already have this figured out.
I’m not suggesting that as parents we shouldn’t guide our children; what I AM suggesting is that we tap into our own internal guidance FIRST–and then teach our kids how to use into theirs. It’s also teaching our children how to identify their feelings and find their own motivation for their actions.
Encourage your kids to identify what their feelings are when they’re choosing behaviors and making choices.
Encourage your child to make choices when they feel happy and postpone making choices when they don’t.
I believe we offer the greatest service to our children by teaching them that their best choices and the answers to their problems and uncertainties can only be found within themselves and not others.
There will be times when your kids make choices that don’t appear to you to be their best choice. Such choices, although they may seem to be unwise or bad, are an important part of a child’s development.