The Art of Blissful Parenting by Sharon Ballantine is a book that teaches parents how to help our children to follow their internal guidance system. Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? If you have read the book The Secret, you will know what I am talking about. If you haven’t, it’s basically thinking positive and good things in your life, and then experiencing positive and good things as a result solely based on your attitude. This is the core of the book.
Ballantine teaches us that as parents we need to instill in our children an internal guidance system, which will bring them to their most wanted desires and dreams. Our internal guidance system is the part of us that knows our highest path or our highest choice. As in, what God has in store for us.
This type of thinking in parenting can give us a deeper bond with our children, and teaching them that the Universe is working with them instead of against them can also teach them to be more positive in their lives. In turn, this will give them a more positive outlook. I have to say that this is a good idea, because teaching our kids only about the negatives in life is going to bring them much harder times, giving them the idea that we need to be positive and work hard is a wonderful idea. Though, I feel that we shouldn’t shield our children from some of the negative in the world, because they will just be wrought with disappointment when they get to be adults and have to handle life on their own. There is a difference between empowering our children and making things easy for them.
There are other ways this book teaches us about parenting, and I can see how they could work. Teaching your kids that their habits have consequences whether that’s good or bad, is always important. This book shows us how to work with our kids to balance their life.
I had my ups and downs about this book, I thought it was intriguing, but I wasn’t completely sold on the idea that all we have to do as parents is to give our kids a positive outlook on life. I feel that as parents we need to teach our children morals, and goals and that sometimes we fall down but we need to get up. I had a good time reading this book, though, and thought that the part about getting out what we put into the Universe is a great outlook, so being positive can’t hurt. I give this book 3 out of 5 stars, it wasn’t exactly what I was expecting and I don’t know how much of it will be followed in my house but it was an interesting take on parenting.
The Art of Blissful Parenting by Sharon Ballantine is a book which I recently reviewed. In the 9 chapters of the book, Sharon brings one through the journey on how you as the parent can be the best guide to your child. Blissful Parenting starts off with the Author’s journey through life getting in touch with her Internal Guidance System. Choosing what you dwell on by controlling your thoughts, one is able to actively choose to immerse ourselves .
Most of us don’t realize that we can control the direction of our thoughts. This means that as they start to make us feel bad, for example, we can choose instead to think about a subject we already know makes us happy. So, as we become more practiced in paying attention to which direction our thoughts are headed in, we can choose which course to take more quickly. Our choice is this: Do we continue with the thoughts that have started to make us feel bad, or do we decide to choose thoughts that make us feel better? We can apply this process to any issue, circumstance, or person in our lives.
Life is made up of personal choices. We can choose to be forward looking or live in the past. Everyday we have decisions to make which will affect our path. Kids are born with their own internal compass which has to be nurtured instead of suppressed. Even when you may not agree with their decisions and based on your experience you know that it will not benefit the child, talk it over with them so they are able to rationalize their decisions.
The child has to be able to see and understand how their feelings would be if such a decision is made. Walk them through the reactions they get upon making the decision. It teaches them to be in tune with their GUT and act on their good feelings instead of bad feelings. It can be hard for a child to think and rationalize in the moment of anger. However they can are more in-tune to their feelings. They should be thought to “feel before acting”. They have to be taught how to rely on their own inner compass to guide themselves through the obstacles that they may encounter in their lives.
My thoughts: Rather than pronouncing a certain behavior “good” or “bad,” we can pose this question to our children: “Does this decision (or action) serve you or not, meaning does it take you in a direction you want to go?” What do I mean by an action or decision “serving you”? If you feel good about your decision, and you made your choice when you were in alignment, then it serves you in some way; if it does not feel good and the choice was made when you were not in alignment, then it doesn’t serve you.
I could really relate to this passage. As through stereotyping behavior we not only rob our child of their ability to make their own decisions and make it difficult for them to fine tune their IGS. Parents should always strive to lead by example and show our kids that we do not need to react to every life challenge. We are the ones who decide on our emotions and whether to react or not react in a given situation. We are given a choice on whether we should react positive or negatively.
Blissful parenting is an active choice on the part of the parent. It is a delicate balance between letting the child have his freedom to grow and giving the guidance that he needs to achieve his independence. Reading the book was certainly an eye- opener for me. It is a scary thought not to be in control and to let go when it comes to your child. You wish to shelter him however you do know that you do need to give him the opportunity to develop his own internal compass as he needs to rely on it throughout his whole life. I certainly recommend that you pick up a copy of this book if you are interested to learn more about the Art of Blissful Parenting.
I picked up this book inspired by the blurb. Parenting is a difficult journey and every parent wants to learn the techniques to make this learning process joyful for themselves and children.
Initially, the author explains ‘Internal guidance system’ and how it helps to control our thoughts. The book introduces us to the law of Universe and how we can train our thoughts and feelings to spread positive vibrations around us and that the Universe will return back the same. So, before moving to the parenting advice, this insight itself seemed very useful for me.
As per the book, we can teach our children to believe and practice their internal guidance system so that they will become a better individual. We cannot be with our children always guiding them and helping them to take right decisions in their lives. As a parent, our main aim is to make them a responsible adult who can solve their problems independently without anyone’s support. This book serves as a good guide for implementing the same.
I am not into self-help books as I feel, they are very preachy and boring. But, this book is not preachy and is realistic with some examples. The title is apt and the cover design is pleasant with blue color which signifies peace. The narration is slow paced and easy to understand. I recommend this to every parent who want to guide their children and experience a stress-free parenting.
My Rating: 4/5
Last night, I had the honor of attending the reading and signing of The Art of Blissful Parenting, by colleague Sharon Ballantine of Ballantine Parenting Institute, at Ravenna Third Place Books. Any parent-type figure out there knows that raising kids, while it can be cute and fun, is an experience with more than its fair share of moments that are anything other than cute and fun, so of course, I had to find out what this was all about for our journey as we grandparent a 7 year old!
Sharon teaches parents how to help their kids discover and navigate their own IGS or Internal Guidance System. With her calm, very kind demeanor, I can see why parents seek her out as a parenting coach and why she is the perfect person to have authored this book. Sharon says when using their IGS, kids discover the results of taking action in-alignment and non-alignment with their IGS, where the premise “think before you act” is better described as “Feel before you act.” They learn the answers are in your heart where love can help you get what you want and need vs. reactive action-taking.
I am now the proud owner of a signed copy of The Art of Blissful Parenting and look forward to learning more. Thank you, Sharon! Happy Parenting!
Book Blog Tour
From Sunday, August 14th through next Friday, August 19th, six talented bloggers will be reviewing Sharon Ballantine’s book or providing an interesting question and answer session to provide readers with information about this talented author and her book that are captivating people around the globe. Here is the line-up:
- August 19, 2016: Kim Van Horn of Love, Mrs. Mommy See post here.
- August 18, 2016: Joana Arteaga of AlwaysJoArt. See post here.
- August 17, 2016: Stacie Theis of Beach Bound Books. See post here.
- August 16, 2016: Kayleigh Petrie of A Book Lovers Playlist – See post here.
- August 15, 2016: Saradia Chatterjee of The Page Hungry Bookworm – See post here.
- August 14, 2016: Mahati Ramya Adivishnu of Fantastic Feathers – See post here.
Sharon's guest blog
The Art of Blissful Parenting | May 2016
Sharon’s guest blog post on Motherhoodlater.com Sharon talks about the challenges in parenting, how important it is to feel good while parenting, the urge to control, and more!