Appreciating the Sound of Silence

Kids today are bombarded with lots of noise and energy from outside sources. It isn’t that this is an inherently bad thing, but it can be overwhelming and incredibly distracting. Whether they’re with a group of friends, listening to music, playing video games, or watching television, your kids are surrounded by a lot of noise. They become so used to the din that they’re unable to focus without it. Kids may think they’re “multi-tasking.” Unfortunately, recent research shows that multi-tasking means that a person’s less likely to be doing any of the tasks competently when compared to how they’d perform if they applied their focus to one task. However, having lots of energy going on around you can be energizing itself. That can be a good thing since you already know that by listening to music, dancing, and conversing with friends can raise your own vibration. On the downside, when you rely on something outside of you to keep your energy up — whether that’s technology or people – you forget how to be alone and how to raise your own vibration. You get so caught up in what’s constantly swirling around you that you can forget to look inside and listen to your inner wisdom. The same can happen to your kids. Do they turn on the radio or television the minute they walk in the door? Are they surrounded by people or gadgets chattering all day long? If so, do they feel ill at ease when it’s silent? Or are you guilty of all these things? Your kids might’ve actually picked up some of their white noise worshipping habits from you. Sometimes in your effort to get to know your kids better, you could even be pushing more noise in the form of more talking. Or we may have children who like to chatter on and on. Of course you want to know what’s going on in your kids’ lives and you certainly want to allow your children to talk about their interests. At the same, it’s important for kids to know that it’s unnecessary for every minute to be filled with noise. Silence is good, too. Take the opportunity to get comfortable with silence yourself. Teach your kids through your actions that it’s okay to be quiet. Quiet moments punctuated with brief conversation bites can be as loving and filled with meaning as long conversations. At first, it may not feel comfortable for you or your kids to be quiet together. It may feel like the “awkward silence” of a blind date or meeting a distant relative for the first time. Let the world slow down for just a little while. Go for walks with a goal of listening rather than speaking. How many different sounds can you count just walking around your neighborhood or the local park? Look around as you walk or sit quietly. How much more do you notice when you’re quiet? Be on the lookout for birds, butterflies, bugs, and other animals that might’ve been scared away by a noisy walk or that you might have overlooked because of a vigorous conversation. When you’re still, you can hear the sounds of nature around you. You calm the energy swirling around and through your ears and begin to hear the voice of your Internal Guidance System (IGS.) Learning to listen to your IGS is an important skill that will serve you and your children for you entire lives. Practice tapping into it so you’ll hear it when it whispers encouragement or warnings. Only when you’re quiet can you hear any sounds of silence, which if you actually listen, they aren’t so silent after all.

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